Association with Fertility Care SA

Team SI has taken an unanimous decision that we will not be associated with Fertility Care SA in any forms. 

We do understand that there are few cases on track, and we will surely do every possible thing to take care of the process, client interest, donor care in India.

Team FCSA has assured us the same.

Celebrating Independence day at SI

On the occassion of Independence Day, SI team has decorated the entire office and placed the national flag high on the wall. 

SI team has also kept a moment of silence for all the martyrs of the nation.

We are proud of our Flag

SI Team wish everyone Happy Independence Day

Happy Independence Day

 

Dear Readers,

Our life is full of Colors.....
We hope this 15th August will
add more colors to our life

Happy Independence Day 

From, 

Team SI

Birthday Celebration!!

Happy Birthday Sheeja

After a tiring day at office, Sheeja was about to start her journey back home. She was upset and wondered why her colleagues did not bother to celebrate her birthday. 

Later that evening, she reached near the counseling room, she pushed open the front door. “Happy Birthday!” Everybody in the room shouted. There they were, her entire staff cheering for her. She was amazed!

Mouth watering Zebra cake and snacks over some mind-blowing conversation made the evening special. When it was time for everyone to go home, they were so full and exhausted that they could hardly move. And for Sheeja, she was so happy that she was blushing all through her way, back home. It was indeed a memorable day.

Sheeja cutting the cake

SI Team Celebrating Sheeja's Birthday

 

17^th July is indeed a very special day,
Your compassion has filled our life far beyond what words can say,
We give thanks to the Lord for sending you our way,
That's why we celebrate with lots of love,
Your Happy Birthday! 

Heart Lung Transplant : Surrogacy

Please welcome Miliam, our lovely Swedish baby.
What makes us proud is the trust and confidence this couple bestowed on us.

With their kind permission, allow me to share few details.

At the age of 14, she had to undergo Heart Lung Transplant. Now at 24, she wanted to be a mother. After all possible research around the world, we realised we were going to be the firsts to stimulate a intending mother like her.

Does that scare us? No ways.
So what did we do.

We used every possible trick on this earth to dissuade them, hoping they will drop this plan. But the couple (beautiful lady specially) was insistent that only we (SI) handle their case. I think it took us about 6 months before we embarked on this journey.

While they were in India, we ensured every single medical test was performed, and met every single specialist, super specialists, like Cardiologist, Cardiac anesthetist, anesthetist, embryologist, sonologist. Stimulated with extreme care, ensured the pick up was done in Major operating room, with cardiac specialists, cardiac anesthetist standby.

The whole procedure went absolutely safe and embryos formed were transferred to the surrogate.

And here you see a gorgeous little baby in their arms.

We call these moments, one of the most special moments of our life. We can never thank the couple enough for the love, trust and confidence shown in us.

It is one of those moments in our life when we realise that how our dear ones believe in us more than we believe in ourselves.

Don't need to say: these beautiful couples - keeps us going.

I am also happy and thank this couple for giving us permission to put their photo on our site.

REMEMBERING THE GIVEN

    “How can you forget someone who has been a part of you?” a question echoed by almost all surrogate mothers whom I asked post delivery. This brings me to think that I train and enable the surrogate mother to detach from the baby right through the pregnancy in order to facilitate the giving process. And I was happy, till date not a single surrogate mother reported any post partum emotional disturbance. I told myself, “job well done”. However for reasons unknown to me I questioned myself, is it indeed a job well done? Doesn’t the surrogate mother ever think of “the given”?

    And the answer is yes they do, but only on probing and after a lot of persuasion. They are not suppose to but they do cause they are simple human beings with emotions. All thoughts related to the given such as “how she looks now, how he must have celebrated his first birthday, has she gone on her mother, he must be healthy and fair and rosy like his father” are in their semi-conscious mind, they emerge only when probed.

    So then I asked myself is this helpful? Remembering the given- will it help the surrogate mother in any way? Do I need to push hard in the counselling sessions during pregnancy to never think of the given? The answer was rather evident, No not required.

    I realised that remembering the given helps the surrogate in two possible ways. One, almost all our surrogates have always been dependent on parents, and then spouse or siblings or uncles and aunts to make important decisions of their life. Being a surrogate gives them an independent identity. It is “ME” who has helped another couple in their hour of difficulty.

    Second, being a surrogate mother creates hope in them just like it creates hope in the minds of the IPs. Hope that I will do better in life; hope to fulfil my dreams and desires. Their attitude towards life changes after being a surrogate.

    Therefore I urge the parents and the surrogates to pray for each other’s wellbeing and never ever forget “the given”.   

Melisha Kar

Clinical Psychologist @ SI     

Master Chefs @ SurrogacyIndia

Yesterday was a very exciting day at Team SI. May being peak summer month, yesterday the “Summer” theme was flagged off with a “Fruit Salad Competition”.

The entire staff was divided into 4 teams who chose some innovative names like: Strawberry, Alphonso, Sunshine and Sunflower. Each Team was supposed to make Fruit Salad and points will be given based on Presentation, Taste and Innovation.

Alphonso: They were very creative as they had carved a baby cradle out of watermelon and other fruits and the visual effect was good. It was painstakingly done and everyone was very impressed, as they could come up with something related to our organization.

Strawberry: They did not have a theme as such but it was tastefully decorated. Apart from fruits they had also used plum cake to form a sandwich with fruit toppings, some ice cream. The final presentation looked splendid the taste was different and awesome.

Sunflower: They had carved a bird using waste (mango seeds, grape skin, watermelon seeds, chiku seeds) from fruits; carving and fruit art deco using many fruits, a total of 13 fruits were used. It looked so artistic, did not feel like eating the salad and spoiling the beauty of it but ultimately had to give in to the inviting taste of the salad.

Sunshine: This team had a unique concept. They had created a salad corner with a banner stating their name and they even had a menu card, feedback form and the judges were even handed a bill. It was quite different from other teams in every way.     

It was a welcome break from the mundane daily activities. Everyone enjoyed it and each one of them got the opportunity to showcase their talent.

Dr Sudhir and Dr Yash enjoyed the most as they were the judges and they got to sample the delicious salads with different kinds of dressings and toppings.

By the end of the day, both of them piled on some extra pounds. It was not only mouth watering and delicious but a visual treat as can be evidenced from the photos.

The judges as well as all the teams voted and it was difficult to choose the winner as the scores were really close but finally it was unanimously decided to declare ‘Team Strawberry” as the winner.

Seeing the enthusiasm, we all were awarded prizes for participation. Winners in addition got books on delicious recipes.

4D Scans of your Baby

SurrogacyIndia takes pride in providing state of the art and latest technological support system to continuously innovate and refine our processes.

About 2-4 scans are done which are 3D and 4D, during the pregnancy period. These scans are recorded in special formats which help you see your baby features. 

We had been couriering these DVD scans to our clients till now.  We have now developed a system, by which we can securely send the data over the internet. This will enable our clients to save 400-600$, which is a huge saving.

Thanks to Paulo.

 

Client satisfaction is our motto!

 

Surrogate Exploitation or Empowerment of Women?

Why is it that empowerment of women should follow a socially acceptable formula? 

Here in India teaching lower income women sewing, making earthen pots and jute baskets and of late teaching them computers is really not empowering them. All these aims at teaching them a particular skill which they may or may not use further to earn a livelihood. They all sound like a Nirmala Niketan course to me (Nirmala Niketan is a women’s college aimed at teaching specific domestic skills to women in Mumbai).

True empowerment of women would mean empowerment of mind. Women should be able to take decisions for themselves, reason what’s good what’s bad for them, safeguard their and their family’s interest, freely bond with other women from different cast and creed to create a network or a support group.

At SI we don’t like to follow any conventional methods, else I guess SI would not have conceptualized and nurtured such great heights at the first place.

AT SI we:

• Facilitate and thus empower women to take bold decisions of doing surrogacy. With all the information received from us the women decides to do surrogacy and then seek to convince their husbands and other family members. 
• All through she thinks of ways how surrogacy will better their lives. 
• She thinks of her family and their children’s future. She makes plans for their children’s future with the money that she earned. 
• At SI we also encourage them to reject us (a certain surrogacy center) if they feel exploited. It is not just we selecting them into our process; they too accept us into their lives.

If it was exploitation, they have many avenues of escape, but they keep coming back, for the trust they have in us…Logically if you feel exploited, will you not want to escape or will you keep coming back for every monthly appointments?… Will u try to get in your sister, nieces, cousins and other close family members into it if you feel exploited?

A Child labor tries to escape...; women sold for flesh trade try to contact social service authorities and want to be rescued…; but here at SI even with having a completely open system, absolutely no confinement the women just keep coming back to us. 

So this has lead me to believe that if some section of the people do wish to name surrogacy as exploitation of poor women, then ok I say its exploitation as in not misuse but exploitation as in development of their curbed potentials and exploitation of their inner needs to make a change to their and your family.

MELISHA KAR

(CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGIST @ SI)